Why You Attract Narcissists (It's Not Your Fault)

You didn't attract them because you are weak. You didn't attract them because you have poor judgment or because you were desperate or because something is broken in you. You attracted them because you have exactly what narcissists need — and narcissists are extraordinarily good at identifying people who have it. Understanding the specific profile they target, and why your best qualities are often the ones that make you most attractive to them, is one of the most important and counterintuitive reframes available in recovery from narcissistic relationships.